Listening: An Endearing Practice

As we approach Valentines Day and consider ways to express our endearment for others, don’t underestimate simple acts of kindness such as listening. 

Listening is an act of giving. It is an exercise that requires sacrificing our need to drive the conversation. It is an essential communication tool, but we seldom consciously practice it. 

Exercising this communication “muscle” yields greater results than you might realize. 

First, listening demonstrates your level of interest in someone’s ideas, and this is affirming.  Showing up fully present and ready to listen is a rare thing these days. People need and value it. 

Secondly, listening helps you add new knowledge about things outside your own experiences and informs you about ways in which others think. We often adjust our listening time for quick sound bites. Consequently, we miss nuances that lead to a deeper level of understanding about an idea and how the idea originated. In an age of information overload, we would gain more by listening to learn about the person behind the idea.   

Finally, listening can raise your level of influence through reciprocity. When we affirm others, they often reciprocate. Our highest praise is reserved for those who listen. They tend to know us best, have demonstrated they are open to our ideas, and show up for more. Even though listening is a selfless act, it is gift that is usually reciprocated.

To incorporate this practice into your daily routine so that it becomes a habit, target one person each day who will receive your full attention in every conversation. Be intentional and avoid caving in to distractions. Be sure to respond in a way that affirms them. You will soon notice your listening “muscle” becoming stronger and more attuned to ideas and people that matter. Enjoy reaping rewards associated with this endearing practice. 

Let our community know about the results you’ve seen as listening becomes part of your practice by commenting below.